Worried Wife

Introduction:

I am 37 and married with 3 children. My Husband has UC and I am interested in finding out more about the emotional side of UC.

Some more about me:

I am a teacher in Australia. My husband and I have 3 children. Our youngest has type 1 diabetes which makes our life extra challenging with UC in our life as well.

Worried Wife

I am desperate to hear from others about the emotional side of UC. MY husband of 13 years has suddenly left me and says he doesn’t love me. He just wants to be by himself. He began a high and long dose of prednisolone two weeks before he left and I believe this may be affecting him along with being fed up with his UC which he has never accepted and keeps to himself a lot.

I have tried to talk to him about it before but he just doesn’t let me in. He also doesn’t like to discuss it with his family. He was very reluctant to use prednisolone but his UC was out of control.

He refuses to seek help and is just putting up with side effects.
His leaving has come as a complete shock and I don’t know how to get through to him.
He is 37 and diagnosed about 6 years ago. He will not contemplate surgery.

The last 2 years have been especially hard with our youngest child being diagnosed with type 1 diabetes at age 2. I have to check his blood glucose levels throughout the night making me tired and not having much energy left for my husband. He has continued working throughout his illness but is getting fed up with the inconvenience of UC and is considering quitting his job as well.

All of a sudden our whole life has been turned upside down and I have no real answers. I would like to hear from anyone who has had a similar experience and any advice. Is it possible for Prednisolone to cause this change of personality?
I am scared the longer he stays away the longer he will close up in to himself and not come back to our family.

written by “Worried Wife”

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